God wants a relationship with each of us.
How we open ourselves to a relationship with God.
It deepens as our knowledge,
faith and experience of God grows.



Firstly, do you doubt that God would want a relationship with you? The woman to the right ‘personifies’ that self questioning. She features on the homepage. And the answer to that ‘doubt’ is offered under the next heading.

Now, if you have any other serious doubts in your mind, that prevent the start of your journey of faith, then please begin by reading the article, Too good to be true?” Indeed there is a ‘whole pile’ of articles under the heading, “Deal with Doubts” in the Menu Bar above to assist.

This website, above all else, aims to help readers to both believe in God and build Christian faith for themselves. My own experiences have made it clear to me that creating a relationship with him is absolutely necessary to meet those objectives. (I am from a senior auditing background and the majority of my advisory team are Christian clergy. To glimpse the ‘who’, ‘how’ and ‘why’ of this website please click here.)


I will say upfront, that I am confident God does actually want a relationship with each and every one of us! That is made clear in the Bible itself. You know, I have no problems with writing that our God loves each one of us dearly. Indeed, our Lord’s love and goodwill for us (his ‘grace‘) sits at the very core of our beautiful Christian religion.

Our awesome yet ‘unlikely’ universe, our very special Milky Way galaxy with perfect Planet Earth sitting in that ideal solar system ‘are also testament‘ to his love for us. It is ‘all there’ so that we have somewhere to physically exist AND then enter into that relationship with him! A relationship that need never end, I must add.

Now, perhaps you are thinking about becoming a Christian. If so, the Bible explains that it does not matter what bad things you have done in the past, because Jesus has already ‘cleaned the slate‘ for you. We really can accept, through ‘faith’, that he did that two thousand plus years ago when Jesus (God incarnate) died on the cross. Hence one of Jesus’ titles is, “Lamb of God”. Yes, as the ‘sacrificial lamb’, Jesus offered his life to redeem/ pay for our wrongdoings. In effect, all we have to do now is concentrate on our relationship with our Lord. That is, in the way he offers us in the Bible.


As such, the Lord is always ready and waiting for us.

But, although God may give us little hints about his presence, he rarely forces himself on anyone. So … in effect we just need to ‘engage with God‘. Yes, we must normally make that decision! Make the move. Based on my own 30 plus year ‘evaluation‘ of using Christian faith within life, that is where we do come to recognise his presence; his existence. Potentially, very clearly!

So, where do we start?

3.1    Understanding what we are trying to believe in

Again from my experience, the first step involves getting an understanding of God and the personal relationship he offers to each of us. In this manner, we begin to build our Christian ‘faith‘. The article, “Building sound faith” offers advice on how we can do just that. Ultimately we build our Christian faith; our Bible-based knowledge, supported by our ever deepening personal relationship with our Lord. Which is the subject of this particular article.

This step of ‘building knowledge’ is certainly important. That is because it is very hard to believe in anything at all, without first understanding ‘what we are trying to believe in’. And I repeat that statement many times in this website. In other words, searching for some fairy-tale god in our lives is unlikely to lead to the long lasting ‘belief and faith‘ that HAS been evident within Christianity for 2,000 plus years.

The article, “Our amazing Bible” follows this one, and offers basic advice on how to decipher it. The Bible actually explains for us:

  • Who God is;
  • What God has done for us;
  • What God expects of us;
  • What God offers us through faith.

I do need to offer some important advice here though! So as to make sure that our Bible studies are effective, we do need to be guided by our ‘church of choice‘. Now, it might be tempting to leave ‘going to church’ out of your journey. But from my experience, it just does not work. Again, have a look at the article, “Too good to be true?” which explains how I came to my own conclusion, at least. If you are still struggling with my advice above, please have a look at the article, “Why we go to church“. 

And look, for a brief explanation of Christianity and our God please read “Christianity explained” on this website.

3.2    Using our faith to engage with God

Once we have built up some knowledge of our Lord, we can then move on to the important step of accepting (through ‘faith’) that God really is there in our lives … as explained within the Bible. That is, loving each of us and wanting us to enter into that relationship with him.

First off, we simply just ‘accept’ or ‘suppose’ that he is in this world and within our lives. ‘Supposing’ God’s existence in this way does not make him any less real, as you WILL come to find out for yourself when you do ‘literally’ engage with him.


Ok, so how do we go on to build this ‘relationship’ with the Lord? Let’s get into the details …

4.1    Going to church

I have already explained above, under subheading 3.1, how the church should lead us to understand our loving God. On which we base our relationship with him, of course. So, as already suggested, we begin to connect with him through a fellowship of faith; a church. The article, “Choosing a church” should guide you in that task of ‘choice’. Most churches have their ‘pros and cons’ as far as each of us are concerned. 

The services that you attend in church will be designed to help build-up your relationship with God. We do actually connect with the Lord there, enhancing that two-way loving relationship offered to us by him. Our faithfulness towards him also grows gradually as a result. And when the time is right, we do need to be baptised; become true members of the ‘body of Christ’ (the Church). We should do so as soon as we can feel comfortable with that as practising Christians.

Now … here comes some interesting advice about the church. You can also have experiences there, that truly can build-up your actual ‘belief in God‘. That is we can usually recognise his presence, as he engages with us individually or the fellowship as a whole, during the service. Yes, ‘once you know how‘, you can recognise his presence at work in just about any old church. That is through his subtle interaction, as he engages with us.

BUT, some areas of the greater Christian Church, courtesy of the Holy Spirit, ‘offer events‘ to be witnessed or experienced that really can ‘rock your socks’. Please check out the article, “Is this Holy Spirit stuff real?” (My own ‘audit’ of those events.)  Serious evidence of God’s presence is offered to you there in the Church’s Pentecostal/ Charismatic movement. Mind you, it by no means ‘mandatory’. Any church should be able to offer God the means to connect with you.

4.2    God in your everyday life

We should ALSO begin to engage with the Lord in our daily lives: looking for his ‘guidance‘, his ‘assistance‘ and wisdom there. You can even gently begin, through “Prayers for things“, to invite him to bring positive needs-based changes to your life and the lives of others. Please use those links above to assist you though. Also note that I used the words “needs-based”. I was not referring to wishlists etc. I’m sure you understand the difference.

A previous article in this website section, “Can I really believe in God?” offers an overview of how to engage with God, and come to genuinely ‘believe in him’. And two complete sections of this website, “God’s presence in the church” and “God’s presence in our lives” have been developed for further guidance (again, please see the Menu Bar above).

This is when it all becomes self-proving, again from my experience, as his presence begins to become apparent to us.

As you may well guess, there are some responsibilities for us within that relationship. We do need to follow the Bible’s guidance. Life should never be “just about me!” The article, “Building sound faith” in this website section briefly discusses those responsibilities under Heading 3. 


With the passing of time God really wants our relationship with him to become deeper. He dearly loves each one of us, and wants us to come to actually love him back. Jesus himself gave us this directive, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.” [Mark 12:30]. And as the relationship deepens, so the evidence of his presence becomes all the more concrete, I can assure you.

He is also ready and willing to apply his ‘grace‘, his unconditional love, to our lives when we are ready to open our lives to it.

It might just look like a ‘tall order’ to actually love God, as Jesus instructed. And I personally understand that. Yes indeed! Again, I have been there … particularly in my early days of faith … struggling with that one.

5.1    Set time aside to spend with him

I guess it should be obvious to all of us to regularly spend time, on our own, in his company … and not just at church. Pretty well any relationship needs ongoing communication to survive eh? In the Lord’s case, it means talking to him through prayer, sensing his presence; his love. And indeed, being grateful that this infinitely powerful ‘being’ wants a relationship with each of us.

Even just sitting with him in silence and reverence can really help our relationship. And mind you, little messages from him can even pop into our minds, during these sessions. Helpful hints, or advice on directions in life we should take etc., can arise.

Of course, I am not saying all this stuff happens easily for us. We are human beings after all, aren’t we?

I really do suggest you also spend time, on your own, reading the Bible. We can never know too much about him. And the Bible is the best place we can ‘grow our knowedge’. Again he can highlight hints and directions, that can bring about positive change in our lives, as we read the Bible.

5.2    Connecting with him deeply

But, as our faith deepens and our Lord’s ‘personality’ becomes so knowable through experiences of him it really begins to happen for us. We should then engage with him through ‘mature prayer‘ and placing our growing ‘trust in him‘ … in all regards. Click onto that last link and, based on my lengthy experience, read an explanation of just how solid evidence of his presence does pile up. That is as we become ‘faithful’ Christians, trying our best to live life as he wants of us. And again, from my experience, the more we keep him ‘in the loop’ within our lives, then the more evident he becomes. 

The Church, and the Bible, help us too in that regard. In that church environment we are shoulder to shoulder with others who can be in deep relationships with the Lord. And church services should help us all to feel his love; his incredible commitment to us. All this stuff helps us to grow in our love for him.

For an explanation of this depth of faith, again have a look at the article, “Building sound faith“. And again, the concept of “faithfulness”, mentioned above, is also explained there under subheading 3. Strangely perhaps, the better we do with all this then the more purpose and contentment we find in life. Yeah, please read the article, “What does faith offer us?” when you get the chance.


I completely understand some of that info written above may ‘seem’ unreachable when you are just starting out on the path of faith. Firstly, I did come to recognise that when we ‘get our heads around’ what God actually did for us through the life and death of Jesus, we are encouraged to open our hearts towards him. Although atheist websites fail to ‘get it’, I can say with confidence that ‘recorded history‘ actually supports the Bible’s account of events, rather than challenge them.

Secondly and importantly for myself, the relationship between God and me slowly but surely kindled deeper emotions as I relaxed into it. Again, if an analytical dude like me can do it then I believe anyone can! That is, I did find plenty of ‘exacting evidence‘ for myself. (Once again, if you wish to read about the ‘who’, ‘how’ and ‘why’ of this website please click here.)

Of course this stuff all just travels along at a pace relative to each of us individually. And again, don’t forget, this relationship is intended by God to be one that will never end!

Also remember that extra sense of ‘purpose and contentment‘ that awaits each of us Christians in this life!

Obviously the Bible has an important role in our faith journey. Continue to the next article, “Our amazing Bible”.