God tries to guide us with his leadings.
He encourages us to make the right decisions in life.
Know our life’s purpose. Follow his will.



Importantly, please read the introductory article, “God’s guidance” to this subsection of the website, “God’s guiding hand” before going on. That is if you have not done so already. It briefly describes the various methods of God’s guidance, available to us. And it discusses how they can assist us during life. That is if we decide to use them.

(To read about the ‘who’, ‘how’ and ‘why’ of this website please click here.)

Clearly not all areas of God’s plans for our lives are so ‘set in concrete’, as in the case of his opening and closing doors (discussed in the previous article). Indeed, from my decades of evaluation, most are not. This particular article explains how our loving Lord tries to give us hints about the ‘best way to go’ with our choices in life.


Normally, God leaves us to just get on with our lives to the best of our ability: make our own decisions. But even so, God does know the ‘ideal’ direction in life for each of us, to make our lives more contented and purposeful. And in effect we are talking about our ‘needs’ in life here rather than our ‘wants’. And it also relates to the ‘needs of others’ I must add! (Life isn’t just about us, you see.)

So, when a risky decision faces us the Lord can give us hints, one way or another as he sees fit, but leaves us with our ‘free will’ to make the final decision. He is simply giving us directions through the events unfolding in our lives, quietly suggesting we ‘follow his will‘.

And look, if we can get in tune with God; get in sync with him, then we will inevitably find ‘purpose’ in all areas of our lives! And that does equal contentment.

Again from my experiences, his ‘hints’ within day to day life are most definitely recognisable, particularly when we ‘twig’ to his presence there. And when acted upon as a result, these hints can make life a lot more stress-free in the ‘long run’.

For this God is our God for ever and ever;
He will be our guide even to the end.
[Psalm 48:14]


So as to get the greatest benefits from God’s leadings, we need to firstly learn how to recognise them.

3.1    Negative leadings

As Christians, we should know to look for obvious warnings in life from God. At my stage of faith journey, I know he always piles up these ‘warning signs’ in front of poor choices facing me in life. What I actually mean by warnings are odd little things, or events, that ‘crop up’ far more often than I would expect. 

In effect they create difficulty, stopping us from ‘easily’ moving forward in a direction that we are planning to follow. The test comes when we really want to do it (i.e. ‘it’ may even have become an obsession) and then we start getting these ‘vibes’ from the Lord that we shouldn’t go that way!

3.2    Positive leadings

Of course, the Lord does not just provide negative leadings. He also just as effectively gives us positive leadings as well. Although dependent on actual circumstances, that alternative may not be as desirable to us, mind you. In his lesson to us, God is squeezing the door on the wrong direction in life and widely opening another one that is more suited.

The easiest route is often the right one, in other words.

3.3    Practice makes perfect

In early days of trialling its use in your life, it is wise to really apply lots of thought to what appears to be God’s leadings. But once we get a better understanding of his method for leading us – that he sets up with each of us – then its reality becomes much more solid and useful. Yes, ‘practice makes perfect’.

I admit, due to ‘my auditor background‘, that it probably took me longer to relax into this stuff than it would for a lot of other Christians. I really looked for the ‘positives’ in it all, before accepting leadings as the ‘real deal’. And, as I explain later, my ignorance also created a bit of a guiding light for me. 

BUT, the important end-results of these ‘leadings’, throughout life, should come to be seen as well above what could be accepted as mere chance. They just happen far too often, when you get in touch with them. Then, God’s ‘gift’ of leadings really does prove itself … again and again. I explain this judgement process, that we apply towards God’s assistance in our lives, under sub heading 5.2 in the article “God’s presence in our lives“.


It is a real benefit for each of us to have a ‘guide’ on hand, who always knows what will work or fail in our lives. That is a guide who also knows what might harm us, or even other people, in some way (physically, spiritually, emotionally, developmentally or even financially) if we do make a poor choice.

If one direction planned in life – journey of faith, study, career, personal relationships, important projects, choosing a church to attend, helping others, buying essential assets etc. – is becoming difficult to follow and its alternative looks easier, then God may well be indicating that the alternative is a better choice.

The tough part is that we must use a ‘good dose’ of self discipline and react to his guidance, when he offers it in this way. But, from experience, it does get more acceptable to us ‘in the long run’ to change direction when his hints mount up!


Like me, if you think back in time, you really should also be able to remember ignoring some of those more serious ‘leadings’ and making bad choices anyway. That is, going against strong ‘gut feelings’ that are often brought on by unexpected obstacles, or possibly even a series of obstacles.

If you can remember examples of ignoring those leadings, you will probably also recall the results. These may not be good memories. I know I ‘blew it’ with a couple of major family asset purchases over the decades for example, despite leadings to act differently. On those occasions, this led to some level of financial difficulty which negatively affected quality of life for my family. It took a while, but I eventually learnt to ‘take stock’ of such leadings.

Yes, sadly from my point of view, some of the best proof of God’s leadings being the ‘real deal’ actually comes from ignoring them!

You may wonder why God allows us to even make poor decisions, i.e. why doesn’t he just ‘close the door’ on them all? Well, one of my ‘clergy team advisers‘ suggested to me that our poor decisions actually help us to grow spiritually as Christians. In other words, the bad results of our mistakes help us to grow in wisdom. And that is why God often lets us override his guidance through ignorance. And yes, I consider that my friend is correct!


I am confident that God tries to guide us all towards decisions that will be of benefit in the long term, out of his loving care; his ‘grace.

The natural tendency, for many of us, is to aim for what we ‘want’ right now rather than what we will actually ‘need’ in the longer term. But our lives are made all the more ‘purposeful’ and content if we can recognise, and then react correctly to, God’s leadings.

There are also other methods that God uses to guide us in the right direction. Please continue on to “Advice through others”.